After I moved out at 18 I spent many nights worrying about my younger sister whom I always shielded from my abusive dad, taking the blows for her. When I asked her if she needed to be safe from my abusive alcoholic dad she said, "No YOU are the problem. He has been really nice since YOU left. He buys me pizza and ice cream and everything I want. YOU were just a bad daughter." So she was taught and so she believed, even while seeing me take blows for her with her own eyes. We are polite and love each other but have no ties anymore. Our family therapist said she can't be around me for fear of destroying her imaginary world.