I have always felt the same way with my husband. He belongs to a lot of community organizations and has always told me that they cant touch him because of it. Well, he was wrong. Eventually they get caught and have to deal with the consequences which is what he is doing right now. I am still bitter now that he is trying to get sober and I also have to deal with the turmoil he has caused. Hopefully yours will hit that bottom and get the help that he needs.