And I have to clarify something, I think.
I am really bad at not clarifying who I am talking about when I write.... Bad habit!
The man that sent me into major codie behavior, where I was trying to control and love him to death and I had all the answers is the father of my youngest daughter. That relationship dragged me through hell. And I still have to deal with him because we share a child. I ended it with him back in 2008. Oh... SEVEN years ago! HA! And that is who I meant "it is what it is"...
And with my recent xabf, he and I never had all the horrible drama that I had with the other ex. But he IS an alcoholic, and no matter how sweet they are, they always seem to have trouble in their lives due to the drinking. And MY own behavior in these types of unhealthy relationships has changed over these past 7 years, so I feel sooo much better about my plight this time around.
Just wanted to clarify =)
Thanx for your support and encouragement guys!!!!