Awwww Ruby. I don't know what to say. Sounds like he is in a bad place mentally right now. I know how he and you are feeling. Booze can and does cause some pretty major relationship issues. Here you are, doing great sober, while he's maybe figuring out drinking isn't worth it. You are in different places right now. But if he quits - maybe things can work out ok? Even if he doesn't - you will be fine.
Oh and I get ma'amed all the time. On the other hand, had a guy I went to high school with tell me I was hot then and still mighty fine on Sunday. Made my day. Even though he's not anyone I would date.