An impending divorce is what made me realize that I had to get sober. I was going to actually figure out how to live with out someone covering for me.
The type of struggle your going through is tough enough sober. Imagine how much of a mess it'll be if you are inebriated and don't have your wits about you.
Kids have a tough enough time with these things. Do them and yourself a favor and fight through it. Self medicating your way through this would be selfish and ultimately very destructive to yourself and your family.
Hang in there, you found the strength to stay clean 10 years you can dig a little deeper and find some more.
Good Luck!