After many unsuccessful attempts, I had to go no contact as well. Anytime I tried to offer support to him he lashed out more and became disgustingly mean. I feel I have truly detached but not let go. I still believe (as a disciple of Christ) thst God is in the business of restoring people so I definitely still love my ex and pray for him daily-just from a distance. I started detaching years ago when I realized it was his life to live and his choices to make-I couldn't make those choices for him. And no matter how good an influence I was on him (as he told me), it was not my responsibility to keep him in line (told to me as well). I don't think I'll ever fully let go, honestly. But who knows
