Originally Posted by
lizatola 
Then, I detached with love once I took ownership of what was mine to work through and what was my part.
Then, I was able to let go. Truly let go: no resentments, no hard feelings, no anger, just compassion and love from a detached distance, respecting him as the father of our son and letting him walk the path that God has put before him.
Great post, and great posts from others, interesting discussion. I struggle with this with a sibling. I've gotten a lot better at "letting go" of things I can't control, but still do struggle with this.
I do know that I don't want to go no contact, because it is my feeling that with someone dealing with some mental health issues they didn't choose(anxiety, depression), having compassion for that aspect, and continuing to show love for the person, may have a beneficial impact. Maybe. But, it certainly is frustrating to continue to witness poor choices.