[QUOTE=Praying;5478870]For me, forgiveness and dropping all expectations helped with truly letting go. That was the hardest with my "father expectations" for X, but sadly I've gotten there too. It was definitely a step taken AFTER I worked through the anger. For me it was - detach, move on, ANGER ANGER ANGER, forgive, let go. Letting go was more of a releasing myself. [QUOTE]
Thanks Praying.....what you describe is feeling like my process also. I detached have done a lot of healing, have HIT anger in general, and now am starting to see beyond it.
After my last post today I almost broke into tears. Just realizing HOW MUCH energy I have spent on these relationship is exhausting for me right now (and has been for years). I am not upset at myself about it, but I have MUCH better things to do going forward. Luckily I have a therapy appt tomorrow so I can hash this all out (and cry it out I suspect).