Originally Posted by
LexieCat 
I think praying for them helps. I also visualize placing them in their Higher Power's hands, and trust that they ARE being cared for. That helped me a lot with letting go of my second husband. I still get nervous when I hear he has called (the last time was a couple of years ago when he called my old office but never called here), but that's more a reason to just stay away from him. I don't want to reawaken old hurts, and it's better this way. I don't hate him, I wish him the best, but if I never see/hear from him again I will be fine.
A fine fellow I go to for spiritual direction taught me to say that "he is in better hands than mine."
Thanks to all of you for an excellent post! I REALLY get the part about them being in our head and our heart. One priest friend, who has been in AA for over 30 years, specifically told me not to throw my mate out of my heart. So, I hold him there and turn him over and over again to God.