Thanks Ann, I'm going to look into those books. Also, I've decided to give her some flyers from work on the Employee's Assistence Program. Among the things you mentioned are also with her understanding things are better. She is still afraid for example to buy the smallest item, in fear that I've spent my paycheck on booze. Somebody with an 800 number calls and she won't answer it fearing a bill collector.
They are sales calls. She worries about paying the rent. Once I pay it she right away start to worry about the next month. I try to explain to her that all the money is coming in to pay these bills. The phone was broken, right away, they shut us off. In many cases I've built up a credit balance. The oil company kept calling. She was sure I was lieing about paying the bill. I ended up calling and they were trying to sell air conditioning. About 6 months ago I made a mistake and payed double on our gas bill.
We have Keyspan for Gas and NorStar, I think for electric. Both say gas/electric on bills. I payed $112 to Keyspan, then for some reason paid $112 again to them. I thought it was strange they both billed the same amount. Anyway, they called from
Norstar that we were late. I payed it right away. Even though I showed her the bill from Keyspan recording a double payment she still brings it up that I didn't pay the electric. I did that while drinking but, not now. I understand it takes time but, she works for 2 lawyers and questions like being one. Then I get mad and call her Della Street. Don W