Family Illness
Have you or are you had problems with addiction being a family illness. My wife never had a problem. However, I think she got alcoholic thinking from me. I don't understand, sometimes I detect alcoholic behavior in her word and action. I think she thought and I hoped that if I got better she'd get better. Either that, or she has her own issues. She didn't believe the doctor about having PTSD. Plus there was a problem with some of her family. Our daughter Wendy, my Step but, don't use step, married somebody from Jamaica. Well her mother and one brother didn't like somebody of color in family. The one brother that excepted it died of heart failure. At first at the urging of our pastor we tried to keep the line of communication open. He felt if we broke off there would be no chance of getting together. This lasted about 2 years. I really had a hard time going someplace my daughter, her husband and granddaughter wasn't welcome. Then after 2 years saying goodbye to them so we could go to Debby's mother's was too much for me.
That Thanksgiving, the whole time at her mother's all I could do was picture the look on their faces being left out. Brittany was olny a year and didn't know the difference. When we got home I told my wife I could nolonger go where they were not welcomed. She agreed it was killing her also. We broke off ties unless we were excepted as a family. We'll, Brittany will be 19 September 14th and there has been no contact since. Then to make matters worse. When her brother John died he had an 11month old daugther and a wife that was 19. He had not changed the life insurance but, assumedhis mother would understand that it was to go to them. On his dieing bed he expressed these wishes. The mother and brother contested it, and the courts upheld that by law they got the $200,000 policy. His wife lost the house and had little to eat. Tracy's mother, who was gay and made mine wife's mother hate even more, I and us supported them. Out of being shamed into doing it, they set up a small trust fund for her own Granddaughter. Anyway, this has added to my wife's issues. She feels so alone even though I'm here. Now anyway, I wasn't there for her while drinking. I guess she has to decide to get help but, I keep suggesting it. Although sometimes the feed back isn't very nice. Anyway, now that I've gone on and on. Have any of you also noticed a partner or spouse act alcoholicly into your recovery? I mean it's scary sometimes seeing me in he actions. Don W