Originally Posted by
2muchpain 
Sure, I can bring a backpack and actually live at a AA meeting, but that's not really living is that. Eventually you have to go home and deal with your problems, much like leaving a treatment center. The bottom line is that you need to grow up, grow some balls and move on. I don't mean this to inflame anybody, just trying to make a point. It takes hard changes and determination to make any change. Why should alcohol be any different? Look at alcohol like any other problem, Y
Recovery for me takes commitment to change, but I do not have to do it alone. Cojones are not the problem, in my experience. That fact I cannot control my drinking is my problem.
I fought and fought for years - hard changes/determination as you put it. Turns out for me I simply needed to surrender and stop fighting everything and everyone!
AA and SR do indeed provide the support I need, I rarely feel lonely - even when I am by myself and have grown up tremendously in my emotional sobriety quickly.
If one is "fighting" I think other here might agree, regardless of "program" or not that surrendering(consisting of component parts of acceptance and willingness) is a better course.