Hey Angie, I'm glad you made it through the rough patch. I think that our sober selves are much better than our drunk selves were. Amp, I'm sorry to hear about the comment your wife made. I actually feel "less fun" as well; I'm a lot more quiet and reserved in social situations (whether others are drinking or not). I do believe that you are a much better version of yourself now - well, I never knew you when you were drunk, but I can tell by what you write here that you are a kind, caring, thoughtful person when you are sober. I think Dee hit it on the head - it just takes time for us to figure it out, and probably more so for our partners/family members to figure the new us out.