I had a SO who is a heroin addict......I tried to help him too.....but I ended up hurting myself because I became even more depressed because I couldn't let him go. Most likely because I'm co dependent.......anyway......I've finally let him go now.....he's back in rehab for the gotta be 10th time....no exaggeration. and he's worse than ever. i can't help him is what I realized.....but I can help myself by not drinking and directing my own recovery.