I can relate to a lot of what is being said in this thread. "Foo" can be a rather encompassing group, and there are a number of common "themes" that run throughout the various threads here in this "sub-forum..." Just from this thread...
Originally Posted by
Kialua 
Some foo are forever in their own world.
Originally Posted by
Debbie329 My brothers discount whatever I say regarding childhood abuse...
Originally Posted by
Stratman1 thats in the past, no point in dwelling on it'
I've had all of this said or suggested to me, but, the reality is, that none of these attitudes do me any good when I'm trying to fix myself. My therapist's comment was: "You're probably further along in your knowledge of yourself than your eight siblings are."
So, Stratman, I'd say what my therapist said, to you re: your foo... "You are much further along than the rest of your foo." The only person you can change is yourself, so, if you must live with your aunt, you need to try to figure out how to put some space between you and her. And, as Kialua said, you are on a journey. Journeys take a while. Mine started, very subtlety and slowly, about 25 years ago, then really ramped up 10 years ago. You are in this for the long haul...so hang in there! :-)