Originally Posted by Elizabeth333

Hi - I understand completely what you are talking about. For many years of my drinking I justified the sadness/anger followed by drinking after an encounter with my children. Well, that only made life much worse. Since stopping my drinking, I have backed off from my relationships, say nothing when confronted - go for a walk and read some passages from Thith Nhat Hanh's book FEAR. Because fear is what drove me to pick up, time after time. Now I practice being present and my children are now supporting me - I can't wipe out the past, but I can be there now.