I 100% second this. ^^^^ why on earth would she NOT come home and drink if you are sending her to a plush hotel where she can drink in peace? My ex has gone to rehab twice abd stayed for about a week both times. Still drinking. He does not want to do the work it will take (brutal honesty and telling his secrets) to get sober. So he leaves. Yours is doing the same thing. She needs serious help, not a hotel room.