Thank you guys for all of the advice. I am glad I found this page.
Very few people have the perfect marriage we all need to work at it every now and again when times are tough and the majority of people aren't "in love" all of the time either as there are times that we could all throttle our significant other over one thing or another! But throw alcoholism on top of that and there is no room for anything or anyone else!
Very sad for all involved. If only our love for them was enough.