Ruby2, what you just said ----- "See how well I'm doing? Isn't it great? And your daughter/granddaughter is dumping me just when I'm making this enormous change for the better." ---is EXACTLY what this is. It is SO frustrating to me.
Also, your husband spinning the whole thing, that was/is my life. What was said was NEVER what it actually was. Is that called gaslighting? because it made me feel absolutely crazy that he was so concrete in the lies coming out of his mouth. he believe(d)(s) them so whole heartedly that it is very concerning.
thank you for your input. resolute, I am!