AW, it sounds like you probably have some PTSD going on. I'm so sorry, I have that my sister, who's an A and always been a NPD, TERRORIZE me with her emotional abuse from child through adulthood. I went NC finally within the past year (VERY low contact before that after my Mom died in 2010). Does your husband understand your plans? I take it you didn't live together prior to him going in the 4 month program? Where will he be coming "home" to?
I lost my edit... I said OMG... it's HIM. What an idiot. This is PURE manipulation on his part!