You are probably right. It really is sad. I guess as long as he can clean himself up every 12 days he gets the kids for a night or two. Are his family covers for him.
He really has no idea the number of days he used to loose blacked out...except I was there to remind him. Gosh I was sick and my recovery will take some time.
I feel bad something happened to him. But it is a small visible reminder I had to let go... And the denial and "perfect facade" is just that....it is when the reminders are unseen I question myself...
Yes I used to cover up some crazy stuff... Hospital and jail...no one knew... I kept attending things win the kids and make an excuse he was tired from work travel etc! To fool myself and to make it through.
Honesty hurts but it is real.