Whenever I've felt like I didn't have options, it was because I was avoiding the options I didn't like, rejecting them out of hand because they weren't the way I wanted things to work out. As long as I held onto my short-sighted and narrow beliefs of what would "fix" my life, I remained a martyr and was at the mercy of other people's choices.
Thanks for posting these. I love starting the day with a little recovery reading, and these are so insightful. And the windows are a wonderful way to get a little different perspective on the day.