Originally Posted by
redatlanta 
I am waiting for the banana bread to cook and lounging on the couch. Looks like it may rain. Hot bath awaits......
Ok so as for you....my advice is to hang tight. Bob, you really need to see if your wife really has any desire to get help. The pamphlets are there and you had a discussion. You can force things along I suppose, she may even go if she doesn't want to. I don't believe forcing anyone to do anything works. I'm not sure your wife was truthful with you when she told you she would get help. Could have been lip service. Will have to wait and see.
I see no reason to say a word to your son until you know if she is going to go.
What was your boundary if she didn't go or was that discussed?
Mmm, can almost smell the bread - enjoy!
Agree not saying anything TILL WE HAVE A COMMITMENT IS GOOD - - for now. If things go downhill, then if ction MUST be taken, he will need to know what's going on.
Didn't do the boundary thing - net
yet at least. Thought about it, but believe that is a fall-back plan for now - or for later during treatment maybe. She is a foot-dragger by nature, so this is not necessarily an avoidance tactic and I will continue the gentle-but-firm "reminders", eventually taking it into my own hands and making an appt. (I even have to do this with Dr. appts. once in a great while).
She knows she needs help - with managing pain - and that alcohol is not the way to do it. I think we'll need to work on the quitting part and convincing her just how much the alcohol is messing up her life and our marriage (both being mostly MY fault, of course).