I am waiting for the banana bread to cook and lounging on the couch. Looks like it may rain. Hot bath awaits......
Ok so as for you....my advice is to hang tight. Bob, you really need to see if your wife really has any desire to get help. The pamphlets are there and you had a discussion. You can force things along I suppose, she may even go if she doesn't want to. I don't believe forcing anyone to do anything works. I'm not sure your wife was truthful with you when she told you she would get help. Could have been lip service. Will have to wait and see.
I see no reason to say a word to your son until you know if she is going to go.
What was your boundary if she didn't go or was that discussed?