Originally Posted by
Soberintexas007 
The gist of what I was trying to say in all of those posts is that I think it is important to try and find compassion for the alcoholic who still suffers. At the end of a lot of AA meetings, we often pray for the alcoholic who still suffers. When I slip, it is not because I am immature, a drama queen, or taking my sobriety lightly like many have suggested; on the contrary, it is because I am still suffering.
I think you've received an incredible amount of compassion over your time here at SR SIT.
I think you might be confusing compassion for enabling tho.
If I want to help you and I want you to get well, you'll never hear me tell you it's ok that you drank.
You'll never hear me say that alcohol is a good remedy for suffering.
You'll never hear me agree that it's your husband, your parents, or peoples lack of compassion here that made you drink.
I think as long as you continue to put the power and responsibility for your alcoholism onto other people or other things, nothing much is likely to change.
Like someone else said, you need to own this.
This is not 'beating you up' btw - it's me sharing a Golden Truth of Recovery with you....
until I assumed responsibility for my alcoholism and drug addiction I was lost.
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