Bob, admitting you have a problem is step one. If she truly sees that and wants to do something about it, then there you go. It truly is one teeny step at a time. I think everyone here wants to protect you and your son, and on a forum such as this, sometimes it comes across as harsh or pushy when meant from the heart.
I am so glad you are doing things for you, and your son. I hope your wife embraces recovery and will pray for you and your family that happens. In the mean time, continue taking care of you and your fine boy!!!
XXX