You say that we aren't getting the whole picture, but here's the thing Bob. We are. It's really quite simple.
You're powerless over alcohol— your life has become unmanageable.
You're no different than any of us here. I'm not saying that to tear you down. I'm saying that to build you up. Alcohol has kicked each and everyone of us in the @ss. Whether you like it or not you're in a very un-exclusive club. We all know handshake. We know the password. We all know the fight song. And we all know what you're going through. Sadly, it's not that unique. It never is.
You're recovery will kick into overdrive as soon as you realize that.