Originally Posted by
redatlanta 
Got it.
Sounds like a lot of resentment on your end. Don't blame ya.
Sad how much you have given up to stay in "your home" or just stay "married" not sure which is more.
Originally Posted by
daydreamer0217 serious karma hit the nail on the head. Bob, no one thinks you are a bad dad. I just think sometimes parents get so wrapped up in what they are in, and they are trying to manage it, but they forget that the kids see everything, and they take it internally and it destroys them. That is not your fault, no one is saying that. But INACTION is your fault. that is all. please just think about it
With all due respect and not the least bit ungrateful for the input, I need to be clear that there is no inaction here, but one does not make an earth-moving decision in days or even weeks unless physical harm is threatened.
Gentle reminder to the "!!!DO SOMETHING NOW!!!" crowd:
Words written here are but a super-condensed, retrospective, summary snapshot of what's happening all in one nice little package without intricacies, details, personal involvement, 20 years consisting of 365 days apiece, etc.... and I do, I must, take that into consideration.