Thanks ST. I have had trust issues all my life, thanks dad. Now things are tough because I put a lot of trust in my in laws and it was all an act on their part. Please don't let my story discourage you.
I guess it's not so much them as my soon to be, not soon enough, ex wife. I can't blame them for siding with their daughter/sister.
Speaking of dad, my biggest fear was becoming my dad. I didn't become him but close enough, maybe worse.
Nothing like being an abandoned child when he lived 1/2 and hour away and would only have any contact when my mom pushed the issue. Even worse was going to his funeral and listening to his step children and step grandchildren say what a great guy he was and how he helped teach them this and that.
Sorry for rambling on, I can go on and on about that.
Have a great day everyone.