[QUOTE="guava;5413238"] I want to make sure he knows it is unacceptable to call me names and that I will never engage in a conversation with him when he's drunk again. /QUOTE]
If you really want him to get this message, don't answer the phone next time. At some point you have to decide whether you want you to be RIGHT or whether you want to live in PEACE because his addiction is not going to let you have both. But the truth is, there isn't anything you can say or do to get your point across if the other person isn't open to it, which he isn't. So you write out your argument for YOU. To remind yourself that your choice to leave was valid. No one else can give that to you. Sending it would be exactly like going to the hardware store for bread. He has nothing for you.