I tell you that from the viewpoint as a child that grew up in a house of abuse. I am 45 and still deal with the consequences of my mom not knowing how to leave. She did the best she could. But. She was the adult. I was the kid. It screwed both me and my sister up. So. I dont think it's extreme at all. No excuse changes that. If this continues you will be paying it back in ways you can never imagine. Financially. With therapy. Or drugs. Or alcohol. Or a pregnancy because they have a warped sense of love. I speak of what i know. But... i am here for you whatever you decide.