One other thing--boundaries are good, ultimatums and "rules" are not so. Reminder: your wife is an adult--dysfunction and all. "Rules" are for kids, not for adults in their own home. Now, if YOU choose to divorce her or separate or take some other action in response to her continued drinking, THAT is a boundary--a decision on what YOU will do if your boundary is crossed. As we mentioned, there isn't anything legally you can do to her if she chooses to continue to drink. So "rules" are useless, as well as being inappropriate for adults in their own home. BOUNDARIES, on the other hand, control YOUR actions in response to their being violated. Which is why I was suggesting you have a plan B if she chooses not to quit drinking. What will you do to enforce your boundary?