I have not read all of the posts, too many for me
but I want to say something that may **** people off, but I am going to say it anyway... take your son and get out, NOW, do not pass go, do not collect 200$ , get out. IN MY OPINION: leaving a child in a house where there is an abuse of alcohol is child abuse. Plain and simple. It is not about you and what you want and it is not about your wife, it is time to put this kid first. If you don't he will either 1 ) become an alcoholic or 2 ) marry one. if you make your son stay in this environment you are just as guilty as the wife. I know what I am talking about... trust me. get him out now, and if you arent strong enough, then find someone else to take him. someone needs to care about this boy more than anything else.