Hi Equus
Got all those pebbles bagged yet:sweat!!!!!!
Know where you're coming from, got similar probs!
My guy keeps telling me he can get back *ontrack*.
From his past history that he's told me, and what his parents have told me too,I know he can.
But why can't it be NOW!!!!!!
The thing is, that it's not just his A that makes him this way, he's the same in other area's
He's ex R.A.F., been used to discipline, *hopping to it*etc and now I think he's rebelling.
Takes an hour in the shower.
ALL afternoon to cook sphagetti bolognaise.
45mins to mow the lawn ( 4mtrs square!)
Could write a list a mile long.
I have to metaphoricaly tie my hands behind my back and sew a zipper on my mouth every day or I would send my blood pressure up!! ( got heart problems, not good for it!!) and think of all his good points.
I,m trying to count my blessings today.
After being on such a downer because of his health, I put into practice some of what I've learned here.
I stopped *making* him take his vits/meds.
He took them HIMSELF!
I stopped *making* him eat.
He ate 2 meals yesterday NO prompting.
I stopped *making* him take care of himself (he gets sloppy when he's drinking)
He showered (yes 1hr) and changed his clothes.
Amazed it worked!!
Only been on this forum 5days and I'm finding it invaluable!!!
Again Equus, I know whats working for me, channeling my impatience into other things (weeding! this sticky keyboard!) and keeping it away from my fella because hindering his recovery hinders my peace of mind.
Take care