987G, good for you for getting healthy. I went to 2 alanon and 2 open aa meetings for a solid year. I have since divorced my X of 34 years, sold my home, found another job and I am doing amazing. I won't tell you that I miss my x, but my life is livable now!! It will happen to you also.
They say in alanon to give any major changes 6 months till you can get your head on straight. Keep working your programs and hitting SR. Things will slowly change, before your eyes. You can't force a solution. Sit back and wait, it will get better. Your fog in your brain will slowly lift and your life will become clearer.
Keep posting and reaching out. Be happy that you are getting "real" help for the craziness in your life. ((((((((((((((987G))))))))))))