I read a post from another member this a.m. on "guarding against disguised hostility" and fairness. How do they relate?
Quick judgments are those that haven't had the time to balance all sides of a story. If I were someone who "goes along to get along" that would mean a tendency to be too readily agreeable -- but I'm not that way, I'm thoroughly disagreeable
Really, I've been tested
Jumping in too fast with a judgment is like pulling a weapon before the other guy can reach for his. It establishes an atmosphere of hostilility and confrontation instead of mutual respect & support. It looks like a rational statement but it acts like an attack (disguised hostility).
Man oh man I have a lot to learn from you all.