AF ,
having had a read through your posting history and the things that hit your buttons i'd be wary of expecting anything too much from your family .
Other people are out of my control and it was always my want for things to be different than how they were that caused me sadness and misery ..
Seems to me we can't force others to change their behaviour or indifference , what we can do is change how we react .
I found acceptance of how things are more useful to staying sober than expecting the world to live up to and deliver my expectations .
Take care, m