Hello Lettinggo,
Welcome to SR! Early days are overwhelming. I have had to stop taking the pulse in my marriage after each day. I eventually decided to focus on my own issues with a counselor and I set dates to reevaluate the relationship. That gave me time to see an unfolding picture of how things were trending rather than the day by day up and down with a person learning to live without numbing themselves out. Also it helped me see what role I was playing in the relationship and what I was getting out of it.
I do not think knowing what I know now that I would stay with a recovering addict if I was not married, had no kids, and our work lives were keeping us apart with no signs to change this. I had 18y married, a child, and my H several times had worked hard to change his job to remain local and active in our family life.
Is he honest? A lot of addicts lie about many things and it makes it impossible to rebuild a relationship when there can be no trust.
Take care of you. Thanks for posting!