P.S. AO -- I'm not trying to knock you or give you a hard time. I started a fantasy relapse. I gave it a good foothold. I played with it & toyed with it -- if you'd asked me, I would have said I was struggling with cravings, but in fact I was indulging alcoholic thinking. Because I liked to think about drinking, because I wanted to be drinking. I own that now, 100%. I wanted to be drinking.
So I drank.
Cravings & thoughts aren't the road to relapse, but in my experience, obsessing is. You can't control a passing thought, but you can let it pass, or choose to recall it.