I don't mean to offend. It's wrong to lump all stay at home moms together and say that things about them but it happens all the time. The fact of the matter is that groups of people tend to have things in common, and other people observe those similarities. Married alcoholic men with professional careers seem to have many similarities with my husband and women who are married to alcoholic men seem to have many similarities with me.
I don't know any female alcoholics besides my sister in law, NYC, so I don't know what they would be like.
I'm not grouping ALL alcoholics, just the ones I've encountered and the ones that I seem to read and hear about most frequently. The alcoholics that I know that have similar spans of sobriety to yours are some of the kindest and most well rounded people that I know. But the perpetually relapsing alcoholics are walking sacks of insanity. Unfortunately most of my first hand experience is with the latter, so that's what I make my observations off of.
These are only my opinions, not facts.