Originally Posted by
johnno1 
Since my ah has admitted to having a drinking problem, it has come to me pretty clear how alcohol has changed me over the years towards him such as:
Passive aggressive
Manipulating
Ungrateful of all the good my husband does
Unloving
Unappreciative
This is where my ah sees why his drinking has got to be a problem bc of me I've become and am a horrible wife. I hate myself for this.
How can I love him again and forgive and forget all the other ****. He is such a loving husband and has given me everything I wish I could b grateful of this. Is his drinking as bad as I've made it out to be?
Are you in counseling honey???? My x accused me of abusing him, it is laughable at this point, but there were times I questioned it. It's okay to own your stuff, work through things, and become a person you like more, its not okay for an alcoholic to blame his drinking, bad behavior etc... on someone else. Sounds a lot one sided to me.