Sad - Thank you and God Bless you. More tears welling up here.
I was married long ago to someone with mental illness (her father was severely Manic-Depressive and she was later diagnosed "bi-polar").
I mention that because one of the things that attracted me to my wife (current/long-term - ish) was her apparent mental stability and normalcy. Its like a personality transplant here - - lest I not forget we are also looking at menopause - which, even in the absence of alcohol, can make a woman appear mad. I can only hope that and stress are the explanation for the mood swings and new "tactics".
In the end, and why the tears, is I am once again being the "rock" - and honestly, I don't feel like a rock. But I HAVE been and your kind note brought out the realization.
(Wow, I always have to write too much - sorry!).