Originally Posted by
TheBob1 
is there a consensus here that I should get rid of the stuff and not touch a drop - at least till this resolves one way or another?
Speaking as an alcoholic, that would not stop me from drinking in the slightest. I always had my beer "hidden" in strategic locations ( garage, trunk of the car, out in the boat in the back yard, etc ).
Having said that, removing alcohol from your home and not consuming it yourself would give your son a pretty clear message that it's not a good thing and you don't approve of it.
It could also make your wife even more resentful of you and escalate the situation even more.
Did you post the same question over in Friends and Family? You might get some more responses there or even meet some people who have tried it.