Originally Posted by
Mysusnshine1 
came to realize that he doesn't respect me because I have not given him anything to respect in the last few years. I realized that I can't just demand respect, I can't expect it after a week of sobriety. I have to earn it back.
Mysunshine - glad you are here posting with us! This is very insightful and accurate, good for you.
I too had gotten to the point where words did very little. I had to make living amends by changing my behavior over time. As that continues, my credibility regains some strength.
It does not happen overnight, but slowly. Also we learn how to establish boundaries as we gain in emotional mature sobriety as well.
Glad you're going to meetings - I know for me if I am teachable I will learn much from others - here and elsewhere~!
Keep coming back