Thank you both, I was thinking about using some of the same things I learned with my family. I just have to let them think what they want but not be resentful for it. I have a very difficult time with my family focusing so much on the wrong doings of my BF when my Uncle and my brother are alcoholics. For some reason, becasue they are family my mother treats it diferently. But I have to learn to let go of that too. I am not happy that others can relate, but it is comforting to know I am not alone in this. Thanks