So many stories so similar to my own, it brings tears to my eyes. So grateful for all of them too, as I truly believe we all help each other find the strength we need to do what we need to do. Interesting that this thread is here now, after the conversation with my brother about putting her in a home. He was incredulous that you couldn't just put someone away for their own good and may not have believed me, but your stories have confirmed that I was correct and he will have a rough road if he tries. I have a feeling he won't try that hard.
Once he sees how selfish she is, I think he'll realize the truth.