Family support?
I dont know how to start, so I will just say it. Ok, My BF is an alcoholic, has been for years. He drinks on weekends, sometimes one weekday. For the most part he functions during the workweek and the weekends he lets go. So, I guess I am feeling some dissapointment from my family. Over the past month I feel I have made so much progress with myself. I dont fight with him anymore, I go out, I do things for me. I am not concerned with what he does when hes drunk. I just let it happen, because it will even if I protest. My mother has said to me numerous times, when you ignore it you make it ok for him to drink more you need to say something to him hes walking all over you. Now, this is exactly what I was doing and got knowhere. This is comming from a women with not one but 2 alcoholic brothers. (one has passed away) My stepfather makes rude comments about him when he isnt around and so do other members of my family. Now, I guess I am torn because I know my family cares about me and thinks I can do better. But I also take offense to all the progress I have made with myself being shot down. I feel like I am constantly defending myself and my BF. I know he is sick and has a problem, and its no excuse. But I also know he is a person and I wish my family would not throw stones at him or me. Can anyone relate?