Thanks happy
I'll do some reading.
In my house there was no yelling or arguing, but also no talking about feelings or any problem solving in a healthy manner. We never really talked about anything (still don't) besides just regular day to day superficial stuff.
I never got in trouble for anything, or had any rules, though I was no angel. I know my parents knew I was coming home drunk when I was in high school, and driving drunk...I don't know how they couldn't have. But neither of my parents ever said a word to me about it.
I have a lot to think about now.....