Originally Posted by
GracieLou 
If someone wants to talk about a problem AND a solution I will be there and help in anyway I can but if they want to talk about a problem that just keeps the problem fresh with no resolve in sight then I need to back away.
Great point there. Her "solution" is to get revenge. Last time I spoke to her she said, "you aren't going to approve of this, but..." so she knows I don't like what she is saying and doing, but she tells me anyway.