Originally Posted by
NikTes 
There's a lot of wisdom here, and in this whole thread -- thank you!
I commiserate with much of what's been said as well.
I haven't told my husband about me being on this site. More at issue for me is that he never knew my problem was as bad as it was and so to talk to him about being here on SR would be to tell him everything, which I'm not sure I'm comfortable with yet. I do worry about the idea of being secretive equating to not being done with drinking or being hopeful about returning to drinking... Working on that. I do need to be less secretive about what's really going on with me, but I also need to protect SR as my own private space as I work through my issue. My SR family is the only people know what what's really going on! And for that I'm grateful.
I should not have used the word "secretive." I was just thinking today about privacy vs. secrecy. I think privacy is totally healthy. I prefer that my stuff on here remains private from my guy, friends and family.
I also don't think privacy always means we want to keep drinking. In my case it was for those four years but not for everybody.